Assuming your guest goes out once in a while, change the locks in his or her absence. How do I remove an unwanted house guest permanently?
Make them think you have mental problems. Like talk to yourself and mumble around. haha I think that would warn them. Oh yeah walk around in your underwear. They might never want to come back.How do I remove an unwanted house guest permanently?
Tell them to leave and not come back, and tell them why.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Have you ever had a house guest from hell?
Have you had a house guest that worn out their welcome. Or a guest that took the term ';Make yourself at home'; literally?
What happened and what did you do?Have you ever had a house guest from hell?
well had this friend of mine who got flooded out from the katrina storm and he called me asked if he and his wife could stay at my house for a little while until he got a place of his own.I said sure no problem,had plenty of room.I had never met his wife,which he just married not too long before the storm hit.They came to stay and I had bought some groceries for myself and picked up a little extra,well this wife of his didn't want to have to get up and look for a job,so she sat in my house,while I was at work and messed around on my computer in chat rooms or whatever (gave it a virus) when I got home from work in one day she had ate 10 of my little fruit cups that I take to work for my lunch.she ate a bag of chips and half a package of cheese..she did NOT throw anything in the trash but left little empty fruit cups and spoons all over my house.she then had the balls to tell me that my carpet had crumbs on it and asked me when I would be cleaning the carpet cause the chip crumbs hurt her feet.Did I mention at the time I was working 50 hours a week or more? to make a long story short.I finally told them both they had to go,he found an apt and the day before they left my house she told me that she thinks I was looking at her husband ';all gay like'; and they are moving cause she thinks I will steal her man and she threw herself on the floor and started to scream and yell about her man...did I mention I am a straight man who at the time had a girlfriend? LOL..this woman was INSANE! he is still marrried to her to this day but she is not welcome ever in my home again.I told her off and sent them on their way.Have you ever had a house guest from hell?
Oh yeah.
When i was in middle school and my brother was in high school, he had this friend that mooched off of him for everything.
His friend lived in the rich side of town and we lived on the poor side, but apparently he got in some arguement with his mom and left his house, and my mom let him live with us.
But he was soo rude about it.. He ate all of our food, ran up our bills, smoked in the house when we weren't home and then got in a fight with my brother and left without saying thank you or anything. He never even paid rent.
My cousin stayed with us for like a month or two and he is the laziest person I have ever met. I would get home from work and discover he didn't get off the couch the entire day. He wouldn't even put his own dishes in the kitchen when he was done and one time I made the mistake of asking him to make the corn for dinner and it was a 20 minute ordeal where he flat out refused. I took him back to his mom and left him; hes not invited here anymore..
No. When my dad and us moved to America, we were the house guests from hell. Where we were from, it was ok for family to stay with relatives. We learned in America that people weren't that friendly. We left soon. We've become more Americanized in the past 20 years, which isn't a good thing. It's rare to go overseas and run into people who are just so civil and would do anything to accommodate and befriend you. Americans are really mean people. I suspect much of this will change. Many are just too spoiled and selfish.
As the money in this country dries up, people will realize Paris Hilton is not the sort of person they should be modeling their lives after.
No but I have been one and I will not behave like that ever again. Let's just say that it is best to watch (even in though this is from the kindness of your heart), who you invite to stay with you.
What happened and what did you do?Have you ever had a house guest from hell?
well had this friend of mine who got flooded out from the katrina storm and he called me asked if he and his wife could stay at my house for a little while until he got a place of his own.I said sure no problem,had plenty of room.I had never met his wife,which he just married not too long before the storm hit.They came to stay and I had bought some groceries for myself and picked up a little extra,well this wife of his didn't want to have to get up and look for a job,so she sat in my house,while I was at work and messed around on my computer in chat rooms or whatever (gave it a virus) when I got home from work in one day she had ate 10 of my little fruit cups that I take to work for my lunch.she ate a bag of chips and half a package of cheese..she did NOT throw anything in the trash but left little empty fruit cups and spoons all over my house.she then had the balls to tell me that my carpet had crumbs on it and asked me when I would be cleaning the carpet cause the chip crumbs hurt her feet.Did I mention at the time I was working 50 hours a week or more? to make a long story short.I finally told them both they had to go,he found an apt and the day before they left my house she told me that she thinks I was looking at her husband ';all gay like'; and they are moving cause she thinks I will steal her man and she threw herself on the floor and started to scream and yell about her man...did I mention I am a straight man who at the time had a girlfriend? LOL..this woman was INSANE! he is still marrried to her to this day but she is not welcome ever in my home again.I told her off and sent them on their way.Have you ever had a house guest from hell?
Oh yeah.
When i was in middle school and my brother was in high school, he had this friend that mooched off of him for everything.
His friend lived in the rich side of town and we lived on the poor side, but apparently he got in some arguement with his mom and left his house, and my mom let him live with us.
But he was soo rude about it.. He ate all of our food, ran up our bills, smoked in the house when we weren't home and then got in a fight with my brother and left without saying thank you or anything. He never even paid rent.
My cousin stayed with us for like a month or two and he is the laziest person I have ever met. I would get home from work and discover he didn't get off the couch the entire day. He wouldn't even put his own dishes in the kitchen when he was done and one time I made the mistake of asking him to make the corn for dinner and it was a 20 minute ordeal where he flat out refused. I took him back to his mom and left him; hes not invited here anymore..
No. When my dad and us moved to America, we were the house guests from hell. Where we were from, it was ok for family to stay with relatives. We learned in America that people weren't that friendly. We left soon. We've become more Americanized in the past 20 years, which isn't a good thing. It's rare to go overseas and run into people who are just so civil and would do anything to accommodate and befriend you. Americans are really mean people. I suspect much of this will change. Many are just too spoiled and selfish.
As the money in this country dries up, people will realize Paris Hilton is not the sort of person they should be modeling their lives after.
No but I have been one and I will not behave like that ever again. Let's just say that it is best to watch (even in though this is from the kindness of your heart), who you invite to stay with you.
I trying to make my detached garage into a guest house in indiana.can i tie inthe sewer line into the main?
so can i tie the sewere line into main in the house and do i use coppper lines for the cold water to the garage?I trying to make my detached garage into a guest house in indiana.can i tie inthe sewer line into the main?
First, have you gotten your building permit? They are really picky about how things are done when converting garages into living quarters. You would hate to get the garage conversion completed then have them come and condemn it. This would leave you with wasted money and no guest room.
Secondly, the water line work is easy, although I would use plastic since it will be going outside, probably buried. But as far as tying the sewer in, I would call in a professional plumber for that job. Playing with the sewer connections is a lot messier and the consequences of a job done wrong are worse than when you are working with fresh water.
Good luck.I trying to make my detached garage into a guest house in indiana.can i tie inthe sewer line into the main?
Try calling a plumber sweetie and see what they suggest!thick hair
First, have you gotten your building permit? They are really picky about how things are done when converting garages into living quarters. You would hate to get the garage conversion completed then have them come and condemn it. This would leave you with wasted money and no guest room.
Secondly, the water line work is easy, although I would use plastic since it will be going outside, probably buried. But as far as tying the sewer in, I would call in a professional plumber for that job. Playing with the sewer connections is a lot messier and the consequences of a job done wrong are worse than when you are working with fresh water.
Good luck.I trying to make my detached garage into a guest house in indiana.can i tie inthe sewer line into the main?
Try calling a plumber sweetie and see what they suggest!
What is the easiest way to get rid of a unwanted house guest?
My husband and I have the same friends. We have one family member who we love and has been there through our good times and bad. Here is the problem: When we want him to leave he find an excuse to stay. My husband David said he have to go. We had him stay for 9 mos. Never helped out with budget. He basically felt because that he was family and didn't have contribut to our budget household and said he was a guest and didn't have to help . My husband and I live on a military budget. We told him to help out with the budget. He faked an illness. Found out from his wife and kids that he went to a physical and mental doctor. Everything was normal. He had everyone fooled except for David and me. He tries for ust to cater to him and had the guts to tell us not to have sex when he is in the house and to keep our babies quiet and the house should be noise free house. David was about ready drop kick him! Any help would be hot.What is the easiest way to get rid of a unwanted house guest?
Drop kicking him sounds like a good idea.
However, you and your husband need to sit him down one day and tell him he has to find another place to live right away because he can't stay there anymore. You're not rich and you can't afford to support a full grown adult....and he has a wife and kids? What's with that? Why isn't he with them? He should be out working to provide for them, not freeloading from you two.
I would also give him an ultimatum. Either he leaves immediately, or he starts paying 1/2 of the bills, including food, water, electric, shampoo, etc.....be as petty on this one as you have to be. I'm guessing you'd rather he left instead of paid any money, so make it as unattractive as possible for him to keep staying there. Lay down the law......hard and fast....right on top of his head. Don't take any arguments. If he still refuses, have the MP's or local PD escort him off of the premises. Since he's not paying you anything at all, he's a guest and guests can be asked to leave at any time at all. He has no rights to that home and his autocratic behavior is his way of trying to assert his authority over you both. Don't stand for it.
Also, you might want to compile a list of items, food, bills etc that he's enjoyed during his stay there. Present this to him as his obligation to pay as well.
Lastly, I'd let the kids make a lot of noise and made sure this guest could hear you and your husband having sex at all hours. He has no right to dictate your behavior in your own home with your own husband. If he doesn't like hearing it, he should just leave, shouldn't he?. ;)
Good luck.What is the easiest way to get rid of a unwanted house guest?
You said you were pregnant before this question was posted, so Congrats. Kids are great, aren't they. :)
You've got the Houseguest from Hell, and it's time to do what you should have done a looooong time ago. Confront the lying, conniving bum and tell him to pack his toothbrush and git. You say he has everyone fooled except you and your husband. Sounds to me like he has you all suckered up too, since this has been going on for so long and the two of you have meekly allowed it to continue.
Why should you care if he throws a crying fit? You know it's all a con. If it were me, I'd have long ago had his stuff packed myself, and tossed out into the street. Get some backbone, the both of you, and make him hit the road.
Pack his stuff up when he's gone and leave it out in the yard.
He'll get the idea.
OR
You could make up an advertisement ad for a garage sale. That says if you and your possessions are not moved out of here in 5 days or whatever, there will be a garage sale and all of your stuff will be sold. All profits will go to us to help pay for the 9 months you lived here expense free.
That should get him moving.
If not, be blunt - tell him he's got 3 days or whatever to get out or the police will be called.
Tell him he has til the end of the week to get out.
Why would kicking him out be an issue, you would rather him ruin your marriage and your family life? Why have you let him leech onto you guys for so long? It must have caused so much stress. Grow some balls and kick his *** out!
I would call the police if he doesnt go, lay the law. But, my auntie said to my uncle if yur not out of the house by ';x'; date i will throw u out, and he hung himself. Just be careful he isnt to emotionally attached right now and if he is i wouldnt do that and opt for the police x
It seems pretty apparent that he is a free loader and feels that you and your husband owe him for the privilege of just being family. It is time to stop being nice about it and just pack his stuff and set it outside and change the locks if you must. You and David can tell him tonight/today that he has one week to find a place to go, but that he has worn out his welcome. The whole idea that he had the gall to say that you and your husband should not have sex while he was there and to keep your kids quiet is just proof that he does not think of it as your home and he being a guest. That is him trying to make rules and demands like it is his home. Forget asking for him to contribute or get a job, KICK him out! You are not doing him any good by letting him stay, you are just enabling him to continue his life of laziness.
YOu lay down the law.
';If you are not out by ';X'; date, I will throw you out.';
tell him to pay or get out. If he doesn't like the way your household is than get out. Family or not it's your house, your rules if he doesn't want to respect you and your family than tell him to find another person in the fam to free load off.
Wait till he goes out ........... then change the locks asap ............. problem solved !
You have to be firm. Tell him it is time to go and give him 24 hrs to get out or you will have call the police. Don't ever invite him again. Learn a lesson from this.
You love the guy, but he needs a drop kick. Give him a date he has to be out and stick with it.
Obviously you know said family member's hijinks, so between you and your husband, set up ground rules for how to deal with the poacher and let him know it is for real and permanent. He sounds adacious beyond human compassion.
You are too kind, but it is not helping the guy to let him be a sponge, and your home should be your refuge.
I can't believe for as firm as you are with me, you would let a piece of trash like him over stay his welcome.
Close your eyes and pretend he's me.
I'm sure you would kick me out in a heartbeat.
Well it sounds like you are just gonna have to put your foot down, he is taking advatage of yall. 9 months is way to long for a GUEST to stay. You may piss him off but that is just what yall have to do. Good Luck. One other thing you do is paint the room he is staying in yellow, i hear that scares off the guests lol
Be firm with him. Set a date where he has to be out of the house and stick to it. Anyone who lives with you for that long is NOT a guest, they're an unwanted roommate - and one who does not help with bills is unacceptable. He has absolutely no right to be making demands on you and your family like he has. If you have to call the cops, do it. Another suggestion - wait until he leaves the house, get all his stuff onto the lawn/driveway and change the locks. When gets back - have the doors locked. Both ways will show him how serious you are.
If you are determined to be kind and tactful then you can't exactly call the police, and a skunk wouldn't work because it is extremely hard to get the smell out of your stuff. You can try all the fine suggestions offered here, but talking to him and telling him that he has to leave may not work. He sounds really dense. Also, this is just a guess but I would say that he has extremely low self esteem and doesn't believe that he can make it on his own.
I have a suggestion, and this is going to sound like a really strange one, but just consider it for a moment. If none of the other ideas work I'd say that you have to make things more uncomfortable for him at your place than he would be else where. Before I offer my idea let me ask you if you know how the Cuckoo bird raises it's young? What the female Cuckoo does is to lay her egg in the nest of another bird. When the Cuckoo baby hatches he makes him or herself at home. The presense of the other baby birds makes the Cuckoo uncomfortable and so he simply pushes them out of the nest. When he is the only one left he is such a big baby that the poor parents are worn out feediing him. Thus the mother Cuckoo does nothing. Pretty clever huh? It sounds like you have a fine Cuckoo there in your nest, and he is changing your nest and making unreasonable demands on you and David to make himself more comfortable.
So you have to make him uncomfortable; very much so. Here is my idea. Why not tell him that you and your husband are looking into different religions and so you are inviting Jehovah's Witnesses to come over and study the Bible with you and explain their beliefs? Tell him that since he lives there you expect him to participate, and that they could be coming at various times without a set schedule.
Now I don't know what religion you are, or what your beliefs are, or what your feelings about Jehovah's Witnesses are, but just think about how uncomfortable that might make him. He doesn't sound like the type of person who would like to talk about the Bible with Jehovah's Witnesses, but if he did, and he liked what he heard then he would straighten up his life, get a job, and move out. If he didn't like it he would find another place to live where he felt more comfortable.
you are going to get a lot of ';tough love'; answers but I'll tell you the truth from where I am. Set a realistic date, eg.
-- august first--and then stick to it..........
he knows and the two of you know.
That is the date and he moves out.
Don't kick his *** out the door.
That aint good for nobody.
But once he is gone ,, doing his own thing, you might just be the people who advise others who have to deal with him. tell them , set a date so everyone knows he must move by then. all the best
Your house...YOUR RULES. Tell him to leave, and that he is an unwanted guest in your home. He has overextended his stay, and your generosity.
Family and money never mix. People feel the attachment of family to be stronger than money. Problem is, the bank feels the attachment to money, and the things you pay for with it, before your family. Be smart...if the money is running out before the guest is, then that is your fault!!
If all diplomatic ways were tried and failed, throw his things out in the street and never let him come in. Tell all your housemates to lock him out and never let him inside the house again.. or call the police and tell them he is a nuisance or trespassing..
well tell him that if he cant help with the bill then he has to go because you can't afford it and if that don't work then just tell him to leave don't take the excuses
tell him that you care about him and have helped him for the past 9 months. tell him that you will not be taken advantage of and that he is not contributing to the household. tell him he has three days to find a new place to stay, or you will call the cops and have him removed!
If he's being that big of a jerk, and is telling you when you can have sex, and telling you to keep the babies quiet, not to mention not giving you a dime to help pay for his extra mouth you are feeding, then he's not family at all! Tell him it's your house, and ';YOUR'; family is going to do whatever they want, whenever they want. Set a date for him to get out, and if he doesn't even bother to try, then the next time he leaves the house, throw all of his stuff on the curb, and have the locks changed on the house. Don't give in when he says he's sick, just tell him to go and find a new hospital to stay at, as you are not his caregiver.
Good luck!
hmmm...lol...give him a date that he has to be out by...and stick to it! I'd say...2 weeks...? =). there are homeless shelters...he will be just fine! You have given him more help than he has needed...and he should have been saving the money he didn't give you up...so he could get his own place...trust me...he may hate you...but, you have your own spouse and kids to think about first! Tell him no excuses this time...and that's that...=). Put his stuff on the lawn if he does not abide by it...and change the locks! =).
Drop kicking him sounds like a good idea.
However, you and your husband need to sit him down one day and tell him he has to find another place to live right away because he can't stay there anymore. You're not rich and you can't afford to support a full grown adult....and he has a wife and kids? What's with that? Why isn't he with them? He should be out working to provide for them, not freeloading from you two.
I would also give him an ultimatum. Either he leaves immediately, or he starts paying 1/2 of the bills, including food, water, electric, shampoo, etc.....be as petty on this one as you have to be. I'm guessing you'd rather he left instead of paid any money, so make it as unattractive as possible for him to keep staying there. Lay down the law......hard and fast....right on top of his head. Don't take any arguments. If he still refuses, have the MP's or local PD escort him off of the premises. Since he's not paying you anything at all, he's a guest and guests can be asked to leave at any time at all. He has no rights to that home and his autocratic behavior is his way of trying to assert his authority over you both. Don't stand for it.
Also, you might want to compile a list of items, food, bills etc that he's enjoyed during his stay there. Present this to him as his obligation to pay as well.
Lastly, I'd let the kids make a lot of noise and made sure this guest could hear you and your husband having sex at all hours. He has no right to dictate your behavior in your own home with your own husband. If he doesn't like hearing it, he should just leave, shouldn't he?. ;)
Good luck.What is the easiest way to get rid of a unwanted house guest?
You said you were pregnant before this question was posted, so Congrats. Kids are great, aren't they. :)
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You've got the Houseguest from Hell, and it's time to do what you should have done a looooong time ago. Confront the lying, conniving bum and tell him to pack his toothbrush and git. You say he has everyone fooled except you and your husband. Sounds to me like he has you all suckered up too, since this has been going on for so long and the two of you have meekly allowed it to continue.
Why should you care if he throws a crying fit? You know it's all a con. If it were me, I'd have long ago had his stuff packed myself, and tossed out into the street. Get some backbone, the both of you, and make him hit the road.
Pack his stuff up when he's gone and leave it out in the yard.
He'll get the idea.
OR
You could make up an advertisement ad for a garage sale. That says if you and your possessions are not moved out of here in 5 days or whatever, there will be a garage sale and all of your stuff will be sold. All profits will go to us to help pay for the 9 months you lived here expense free.
That should get him moving.
If not, be blunt - tell him he's got 3 days or whatever to get out or the police will be called.
Tell him he has til the end of the week to get out.
Why would kicking him out be an issue, you would rather him ruin your marriage and your family life? Why have you let him leech onto you guys for so long? It must have caused so much stress. Grow some balls and kick his *** out!
I would call the police if he doesnt go, lay the law. But, my auntie said to my uncle if yur not out of the house by ';x'; date i will throw u out, and he hung himself. Just be careful he isnt to emotionally attached right now and if he is i wouldnt do that and opt for the police x
It seems pretty apparent that he is a free loader and feels that you and your husband owe him for the privilege of just being family. It is time to stop being nice about it and just pack his stuff and set it outside and change the locks if you must. You and David can tell him tonight/today that he has one week to find a place to go, but that he has worn out his welcome. The whole idea that he had the gall to say that you and your husband should not have sex while he was there and to keep your kids quiet is just proof that he does not think of it as your home and he being a guest. That is him trying to make rules and demands like it is his home. Forget asking for him to contribute or get a job, KICK him out! You are not doing him any good by letting him stay, you are just enabling him to continue his life of laziness.
YOu lay down the law.
';If you are not out by ';X'; date, I will throw you out.';
tell him to pay or get out. If he doesn't like the way your household is than get out. Family or not it's your house, your rules if he doesn't want to respect you and your family than tell him to find another person in the fam to free load off.
Wait till he goes out ........... then change the locks asap ............. problem solved !
You have to be firm. Tell him it is time to go and give him 24 hrs to get out or you will have call the police. Don't ever invite him again. Learn a lesson from this.
You love the guy, but he needs a drop kick. Give him a date he has to be out and stick with it.
Obviously you know said family member's hijinks, so between you and your husband, set up ground rules for how to deal with the poacher and let him know it is for real and permanent. He sounds adacious beyond human compassion.
You are too kind, but it is not helping the guy to let him be a sponge, and your home should be your refuge.
I can't believe for as firm as you are with me, you would let a piece of trash like him over stay his welcome.
Close your eyes and pretend he's me.
I'm sure you would kick me out in a heartbeat.
Well it sounds like you are just gonna have to put your foot down, he is taking advatage of yall. 9 months is way to long for a GUEST to stay. You may piss him off but that is just what yall have to do. Good Luck. One other thing you do is paint the room he is staying in yellow, i hear that scares off the guests lol
Be firm with him. Set a date where he has to be out of the house and stick to it. Anyone who lives with you for that long is NOT a guest, they're an unwanted roommate - and one who does not help with bills is unacceptable. He has absolutely no right to be making demands on you and your family like he has. If you have to call the cops, do it. Another suggestion - wait until he leaves the house, get all his stuff onto the lawn/driveway and change the locks. When gets back - have the doors locked. Both ways will show him how serious you are.
If you are determined to be kind and tactful then you can't exactly call the police, and a skunk wouldn't work because it is extremely hard to get the smell out of your stuff. You can try all the fine suggestions offered here, but talking to him and telling him that he has to leave may not work. He sounds really dense. Also, this is just a guess but I would say that he has extremely low self esteem and doesn't believe that he can make it on his own.
I have a suggestion, and this is going to sound like a really strange one, but just consider it for a moment. If none of the other ideas work I'd say that you have to make things more uncomfortable for him at your place than he would be else where. Before I offer my idea let me ask you if you know how the Cuckoo bird raises it's young? What the female Cuckoo does is to lay her egg in the nest of another bird. When the Cuckoo baby hatches he makes him or herself at home. The presense of the other baby birds makes the Cuckoo uncomfortable and so he simply pushes them out of the nest. When he is the only one left he is such a big baby that the poor parents are worn out feediing him. Thus the mother Cuckoo does nothing. Pretty clever huh? It sounds like you have a fine Cuckoo there in your nest, and he is changing your nest and making unreasonable demands on you and David to make himself more comfortable.
So you have to make him uncomfortable; very much so. Here is my idea. Why not tell him that you and your husband are looking into different religions and so you are inviting Jehovah's Witnesses to come over and study the Bible with you and explain their beliefs? Tell him that since he lives there you expect him to participate, and that they could be coming at various times without a set schedule.
Now I don't know what religion you are, or what your beliefs are, or what your feelings about Jehovah's Witnesses are, but just think about how uncomfortable that might make him. He doesn't sound like the type of person who would like to talk about the Bible with Jehovah's Witnesses, but if he did, and he liked what he heard then he would straighten up his life, get a job, and move out. If he didn't like it he would find another place to live where he felt more comfortable.
you are going to get a lot of ';tough love'; answers but I'll tell you the truth from where I am. Set a realistic date, eg.
-- august first--and then stick to it..........
he knows and the two of you know.
That is the date and he moves out.
Don't kick his *** out the door.
That aint good for nobody.
But once he is gone ,, doing his own thing, you might just be the people who advise others who have to deal with him. tell them , set a date so everyone knows he must move by then. all the best
Your house...YOUR RULES. Tell him to leave, and that he is an unwanted guest in your home. He has overextended his stay, and your generosity.
Family and money never mix. People feel the attachment of family to be stronger than money. Problem is, the bank feels the attachment to money, and the things you pay for with it, before your family. Be smart...if the money is running out before the guest is, then that is your fault!!
If all diplomatic ways were tried and failed, throw his things out in the street and never let him come in. Tell all your housemates to lock him out and never let him inside the house again.. or call the police and tell them he is a nuisance or trespassing..
well tell him that if he cant help with the bill then he has to go because you can't afford it and if that don't work then just tell him to leave don't take the excuses
tell him that you care about him and have helped him for the past 9 months. tell him that you will not be taken advantage of and that he is not contributing to the household. tell him he has three days to find a new place to stay, or you will call the cops and have him removed!
If he's being that big of a jerk, and is telling you when you can have sex, and telling you to keep the babies quiet, not to mention not giving you a dime to help pay for his extra mouth you are feeding, then he's not family at all! Tell him it's your house, and ';YOUR'; family is going to do whatever they want, whenever they want. Set a date for him to get out, and if he doesn't even bother to try, then the next time he leaves the house, throw all of his stuff on the curb, and have the locks changed on the house. Don't give in when he says he's sick, just tell him to go and find a new hospital to stay at, as you are not his caregiver.
Good luck!
hmmm...lol...give him a date that he has to be out by...and stick to it! I'd say...2 weeks...? =). there are homeless shelters...he will be just fine! You have given him more help than he has needed...and he should have been saving the money he didn't give you up...so he could get his own place...trust me...he may hate you...but, you have your own spouse and kids to think about first! Tell him no excuses this time...and that's that...=). Put his stuff on the lawn if he does not abide by it...and change the locks! =).
How can i advertise my guest house on your stranraer list?
use the motorcycle mags and papers,your acc,. will soon get known by word of mouth amongst the worldwide motorcycle fraternity,isle of man,digs for foreign travellers en route etc.How can i advertise my guest house on your stranraer list?
My Stranraer list is very private, so you should please refrain from posting any advertisement there, if you have to, go to ebay.com, but please don't advertise om my stranraer list, I;m not ever sure if it's allowed, you might get kicked off for doing that.
My Stranraer list is very private, so you should please refrain from posting any advertisement there, if you have to, go to ebay.com, but please don't advertise om my stranraer list, I;m not ever sure if it's allowed, you might get kicked off for doing that.
Please suggest guest house/ hotel for a family to stay at Pondicherry for Admission into Pondi Cent University
Dial ' Any Time Any Where Tele.No. 39999999 ' %26amp; give them ur requirements they will give the detail/info. U require.
I want to buy a B&B or guest house in Skegness UK?
Also does anybody know of B%26amp;Bs for sale in the skegness area,
I require a commercial buisness loan of up to 90-95 percent of the asking price, Can anybody help.I want to buy a B%26amp;B or guest house in Skegness UK?
here you go mate a list of properties currently for sale in that area and a few miles away in the general area
http://www.ukpropertyshop.co.uk/estate-a鈥?/a>I want to buy a B%26amp;B or guest house in Skegness UK?
try the lady nmagazine
A good source for your search, would be at InternationalLiving.com
Try Daltons weekly they always have a lot of businesses in there
Get in touch with local estate agents
You will have trouble getting a commercial mortgage for that percentage of the purchase price although some specialist companies do it, especially if you will be liveling there as well and it is then considered part residential, [art commercial. I would go to a financial advisor though.
no way will you get a comercial business loan for 90%- 95% you may get one for 70%-75% and then only if you can show the lender you are up to running a B and B
good luck anyway
PS been there
I require a commercial buisness loan of up to 90-95 percent of the asking price, Can anybody help.I want to buy a B%26amp;B or guest house in Skegness UK?
here you go mate a list of properties currently for sale in that area and a few miles away in the general area
http://www.ukpropertyshop.co.uk/estate-a鈥?/a>I want to buy a B%26amp;B or guest house in Skegness UK?
try the lady nmagazine
A good source for your search, would be at InternationalLiving.com
Try Daltons weekly they always have a lot of businesses in there
Get in touch with local estate agents
You will have trouble getting a commercial mortgage for that percentage of the purchase price although some specialist companies do it, especially if you will be liveling there as well and it is then considered part residential, [art commercial. I would go to a financial advisor though.
no way will you get a comercial business loan for 90%- 95% you may get one for 70%-75% and then only if you can show the lender you are up to running a B and B
good luck anyway
PS been there
Building and safety?? Is a 1 bedroom guest house legal to live in in the city of los angeles??
My daughter and her mother is living in a 1 bedroom guest house in the city limits of Los Angeles! I understand that it is ILLEGAL to be doing and that the dwelling unit is Illegal because of a guest house can not be used as a residence? Is this true??Building and safety?? Is a 1 bedroom guest house legal to live in in the city of los angeles??
No, it's perfectly legal.
No, it's perfectly legal.
How do you politely get a house guest to leave?
I have a friend that comes over quite often and just won't leave until THEY are ready. When I say I have errands to run they ask to join, when I say I'm tired they just say I should get some sleep.How do you politely get a house guest to leave?
Just say, ';well I hate to be rude but I think we're gonna have to get together another time I have some personal errands to run or I have to get some sleep';. Tell them you'll call them tomorrow as you stand up %26amp; start walking to the door. Or you could scream there's money falling from the sky %26amp; slam the door behind them %26amp; lock it as they run out. heehee...best of luck to you!How do you politely get a house guest to leave?
Tell them that you got go to wal-mart lol
Polietly tell them that you need some alome time and you'd appreciate it if theyd leave you alone for a little while.
Politely tell them that you would appreciate them calling before they come over. If they don't call, don't answer the door. If they do end up getting in and you want them to leave just tell them that you have things you need to get done and need some alone time. If they don't get the hint, you're going to have to be blunt about their behavior.
You have to put an end to their coming completely.
Tell them you can't have them over anymore, cos you find their presence disruptive to your life. If they get angry, let it be, better still if they dump you as a friend.
Tell them before they come into the house that you have an appointment at (Whatever time you want them to leave) and then stick to it. Don't explain what your appointment is, just say you are going out and she is welcome to come over but she can only stay til (name your time)
get rid of them by communication break down.
JUST BE HONEST AND TELL HIM OR HER I HAVE ERRANDS TO RUN. AND I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE TO DO THEM. AND I HAVE TO GO TO SLEEP. AND I NEED MY REST. AND I WILL TALK TO YOU LATER. AND SAY IT IN A POLITE WAY. GOOD LUCK....thick hair
Just say, ';well I hate to be rude but I think we're gonna have to get together another time I have some personal errands to run or I have to get some sleep';. Tell them you'll call them tomorrow as you stand up %26amp; start walking to the door. Or you could scream there's money falling from the sky %26amp; slam the door behind them %26amp; lock it as they run out. heehee...best of luck to you!How do you politely get a house guest to leave?
Tell them that you got go to wal-mart lol
Polietly tell them that you need some alome time and you'd appreciate it if theyd leave you alone for a little while.
Politely tell them that you would appreciate them calling before they come over. If they don't call, don't answer the door. If they do end up getting in and you want them to leave just tell them that you have things you need to get done and need some alone time. If they don't get the hint, you're going to have to be blunt about their behavior.
You have to put an end to their coming completely.
Tell them you can't have them over anymore, cos you find their presence disruptive to your life. If they get angry, let it be, better still if they dump you as a friend.
Tell them before they come into the house that you have an appointment at (Whatever time you want them to leave) and then stick to it. Don't explain what your appointment is, just say you are going out and she is welcome to come over but she can only stay til (name your time)
get rid of them by communication break down.
JUST BE HONEST AND TELL HIM OR HER I HAVE ERRANDS TO RUN. AND I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE TO DO THEM. AND I HAVE TO GO TO SLEEP. AND I NEED MY REST. AND I WILL TALK TO YOU LATER. AND SAY IT IN A POLITE WAY. GOOD LUCK....
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Ffperki you were saying somehting about a guest house on the lackland afb, what needs to be done to stay there
my boyfriend is graduating in a month and i was reading about something you said about they have a guest house on the lackland afb, how do you stay there?Ffperki you were saying somehting about a guest house on the lackland afb, what needs to be done to stay there
you need to clean up when you leave- leaving the place exactly as you found it.
you need to clean up when you leave- leaving the place exactly as you found it.
How is the stay at Kavithanjali Guest House Chennai?
Really not aware of that, but there are quite many Lodges %26amp; guest houses in chennai which fits almost every budget
Im looking to build an inexpensive guest house, yet comlpletely livable minus the kitchen.?
where can i go online to get an estimate on a floor plan or even get some ideas on a floor plann for an extra room out back behind my house? I also would like to build this myself, with no contractors.Im looking to build an inexpensive guest house, yet comlpletely livable minus the kitchen.?
If you just wanted a room you could use a shed which would be easy . In my county you can build a out building without a permit if it is less than 80 sq ft. But you will likely need a bathroom. So you will need a building permit. You should start a your local government to see what requirements they have for your proposal. You will need licensed electricians to do/inspect all electric work you may be able to do the rest but some counties require a licensed plumber for water and sewer connections. The county may or may not require a licensed architect for a site plan, some will allow you to prepare the plan. An extension on your house would be a lot cheaper since you would not need to add a bath. You could have a separate entrance for that portion of the house.Im looking to build an inexpensive guest house, yet comlpletely livable minus the kitchen.?
http://www.homedepot.com/webapp/wcs/stor鈥?/a>
The best way to learn what you need in your specific jurisdiction is to talk to someone at your local government's planning and development branch. If you live in a city or a municipal district you'll need planning approval for any new building or for an extension that changes the footprint of your house anyway (and for some that don't, like certain decks), so it's a good idea to get them involved early.
By the way, to get approval you'll almost certainly need plans that have been approved by a structural engineer or architect who practises in your state or province. This isn't just a way of gouging you, either. It's meant to ensure buildings meet local requirements for structural strength, earthquake tolerance, snow load capacity, wind tolerance, etc. You may find that it's cheaper to get a pre-approved plan for the guest house from a house plans magazine published in your home country. Most of these will be acceptable in any area of your country, or they'll be marked otherwise. You'll still have to get them stamped by a local architect or structural engineer in most cases.
Municipalities also have rules about zoning that go beyond the building code. Where I live you can't build right up to the property line, for instance. Getting a permit and approval helps to prevent a nasty mistake that could cost you a lot of money in the long run and even invalidate your homeowner's insurance or, in Canada, your mortgage.
When we put our room in a long time ago we learned from our neighbours, who put in an extension to their master bedroom without a development permit or approved plans. Their idea was that they owned the property, they could do what they wanted with it. They were forced to tear it down once the City found out, and well they were: the 'load-bearing wall' was built with plywood and 1x4s. It would have fallen down in a good wind and probably would have taken out our master bedroom with it. They also didn't put down a proper foundation, which meant they had to dig it up and start again. I think in the end they ended up shelling out four times what we did - and they did it to ';save money';. Sometimes cheap isn't thrifty.
Edit to add: By the way, you don't need approval for sheds because they're considered temporary and movable. A guest house will never be considered temporary and movable, so you will need a permit unless your county is exceptionally poorly run.
If you just wanted a room you could use a shed which would be easy . In my county you can build a out building without a permit if it is less than 80 sq ft. But you will likely need a bathroom. So you will need a building permit. You should start a your local government to see what requirements they have for your proposal. You will need licensed electricians to do/inspect all electric work you may be able to do the rest but some counties require a licensed plumber for water and sewer connections. The county may or may not require a licensed architect for a site plan, some will allow you to prepare the plan. An extension on your house would be a lot cheaper since you would not need to add a bath. You could have a separate entrance for that portion of the house.Im looking to build an inexpensive guest house, yet comlpletely livable minus the kitchen.?
http://www.homedepot.com/webapp/wcs/stor鈥?/a>
The best way to learn what you need in your specific jurisdiction is to talk to someone at your local government's planning and development branch. If you live in a city or a municipal district you'll need planning approval for any new building or for an extension that changes the footprint of your house anyway (and for some that don't, like certain decks), so it's a good idea to get them involved early.
By the way, to get approval you'll almost certainly need plans that have been approved by a structural engineer or architect who practises in your state or province. This isn't just a way of gouging you, either. It's meant to ensure buildings meet local requirements for structural strength, earthquake tolerance, snow load capacity, wind tolerance, etc. You may find that it's cheaper to get a pre-approved plan for the guest house from a house plans magazine published in your home country. Most of these will be acceptable in any area of your country, or they'll be marked otherwise. You'll still have to get them stamped by a local architect or structural engineer in most cases.
Municipalities also have rules about zoning that go beyond the building code. Where I live you can't build right up to the property line, for instance. Getting a permit and approval helps to prevent a nasty mistake that could cost you a lot of money in the long run and even invalidate your homeowner's insurance or, in Canada, your mortgage.
When we put our room in a long time ago we learned from our neighbours, who put in an extension to their master bedroom without a development permit or approved plans. Their idea was that they owned the property, they could do what they wanted with it. They were forced to tear it down once the City found out, and well they were: the 'load-bearing wall' was built with plywood and 1x4s. It would have fallen down in a good wind and probably would have taken out our master bedroom with it. They also didn't put down a proper foundation, which meant they had to dig it up and start again. I think in the end they ended up shelling out four times what we did - and they did it to ';save money';. Sometimes cheap isn't thrifty.
Edit to add: By the way, you don't need approval for sheds because they're considered temporary and movable. A guest house will never be considered temporary and movable, so you will need a permit unless your county is exceptionally poorly run.
What is the song at the end of the first episode of royal pains when hank and even are at the guest house?
Help pleaseWhat is the song at the end of the first episode of royal pains when hank and even are at the guest house?
The closing track is The Blue Van's 'Be Home Soon'
Hope this helps!
The closing track is The Blue Van's 'Be Home Soon'
Hope this helps!
Has anyone ever stayed at The Ugly Duckling Guest House in Rekyavik?
I'm htinking of staying there %26amp; just looking for some feedback...Has anyone ever stayed at The Ugly Duckling Guest House in Rekyavik?
Yes! many and many times.
Yes! many and many times.
What information is required by law on a guest-house / B&B registration card?
by law?
I don't think you are required to give/get anything more then a name so YOU know what to call your visitor.What information is required by law on a guest-house / B%26amp;B registration card?
First, I need to make a definition, an Alien:
';An Alien is a person from outside the United Kingdom of England, Scotland, Wales, Northern Ireland and the County of North Berwick';.
Now you know that (Courtesy of my Dictionary), I can answer your Q.
A Non-alien need only fill in a name, that need not be the real name. There is no obligation to complete your address, Telephone Number, or any further information.
An Alien must fill in Home address, Country of residence, next destination, and how long they are staying.
However, Its different if you are giving a credit card to secure your hotel account. In that instance, the cardholder must provide The billing address address, a contact number, and the cardholders signature.
Vehichle details are optional but advisable as then they can recognise if your vehichle suffers damage etc. The fact that a hotel is willing to raise such things to your attention does not make the hotel liable for such things, nor does it state that a Hotel/ Guest house needs to.thick hair
I don't think you are required to give/get anything more then a name so YOU know what to call your visitor.What information is required by law on a guest-house / B%26amp;B registration card?
First, I need to make a definition, an Alien:
';An Alien is a person from outside the United Kingdom of England, Scotland, Wales, Northern Ireland and the County of North Berwick';.
Now you know that (Courtesy of my Dictionary), I can answer your Q.
A Non-alien need only fill in a name, that need not be the real name. There is no obligation to complete your address, Telephone Number, or any further information.
An Alien must fill in Home address, Country of residence, next destination, and how long they are staying.
However, Its different if you are giving a credit card to secure your hotel account. In that instance, the cardholder must provide The billing address address, a contact number, and the cardholders signature.
Vehichle details are optional but advisable as then they can recognise if your vehichle suffers damage etc. The fact that a hotel is willing to raise such things to your attention does not make the hotel liable for such things, nor does it state that a Hotel/ Guest house needs to.
How do I remove an unwanted house guest. A friend of mine called me from California in April,telling me she?
was moving back to Florida,and if she can stay in my house until she found her own apt. I agreed that she could stay for 2 or 3 months. Well, it has been almost 4 months and I want her OUT. She is disrupting our lives with her drinking, and expecting to be picked up off the floor every time she falls down. How can I make her get out,without taking her to court? She has been staying here free of charge. She is now an unwanted guest.How do I remove an unwanted house guest. A friend of mine called me from California in April,telling me she?
Welcome to Florida..right of domicile. the state where a guest can stay forever. You will have to evict her. Once she started gettting mail at your place you are stuck with her.
Any number of people have given the County money to evict family members, friends, co-workers, anyone who came to stay.
Sorry...
I do not let anyone use my address to get mail at. I do not let people in my house for more than thirty minutes at a time. I am considered a bit unfriendly but I do not want unwelcome house pests.How do I remove an unwanted house guest. A friend of mine called me from California in April,telling me she?
Sit her down for a face-to-face talk, and explain to her that she has overstayed her welcome, and is no longer wanted in your house. Hand her a telephone book, opened to ';apartment rentals'; and tell her that she has 5 days to be out or you will have her removed.
If she is as bad an alcoholic as you say, maybe taking her to detox would be a good alternative, and when she gets out of detox she can live elsewhere.
in the state of Florida once some one establishes residency you can not throw them out. if she has been living there that long that is know her house to and does not matter who's name is on the lease or mortgage and wither or not she pays any bills the only way you can legally force her to move is to go down to the clerk of courts office and file for an eviction if you try and just throw her stuff out she can kick the door in or what ever else she has to do to get back in because it is her house to now and it is not against the law to break into your own home
Simply tell her to leave or that it's time for her to pitch in. If not, call the police it's our property and have the right to say who stays and who doesn't stay there. Or change your locks and place her stuff outside. If you are too nice, grow a pair and kick her out with force. You say ';our'; lives so there is more than 1 of you.
You know the old saying, after a few days guests are like fish,...they start to stink. Just tell her face to face you want her out of the house. Get her a motel room and put her in it. (but only pay for one night, she can be responsible for the rest)
TELL HER TO GET OUT. SHE HAS OVERSTAYED WAY LONGER THAT YOU OFFERED HER TO. YOU SHOULD TELL HER ALL THE REASONS WHY YOU WANT HER OUT SUCH AS THE FACT THAT SHE DRINKS TOO MUCH. JUST TELL YOU'VE HAS ENOUGH OF HER!!!
Find out what the eviction laws are in your state before you remove her, or you could get yourself into trouble.
It may be as simple as just giving her a letter stating she has to be out within 30 days.
law dawg or w/e his name is rite. did u write a contract when she moved in with u cuz if you did u have the rite 2 kick her out.
Give her an ultimatum. Move out at the end of the month, or you'll lock her out.
Offer to help her find an apartment.
That's it.
Make it hard for her to stay or Find her an apartment. Shes not going to go anywhere cuz she is living off you. Or just tell her she has 1 week to get out
Take all of her stuff out of the house and put it to the curb that should give her a hint.
Make sure she doesn't have a key. If she does, change the locks. Once you've done that, tell her, verbally and in writing that she has one week to vacate the premises. If she doesn't leave after that, take out a warrant on her for criminal tresspass.
Note: do NOT put her things out on the curb like some of the otehrs suggest. You may very well find yourself financially responsible for any loss of damage she incurs.
Welcome to Florida..right of domicile. the state where a guest can stay forever. You will have to evict her. Once she started gettting mail at your place you are stuck with her.
Any number of people have given the County money to evict family members, friends, co-workers, anyone who came to stay.
Sorry...
I do not let anyone use my address to get mail at. I do not let people in my house for more than thirty minutes at a time. I am considered a bit unfriendly but I do not want unwelcome house pests.How do I remove an unwanted house guest. A friend of mine called me from California in April,telling me she?
Sit her down for a face-to-face talk, and explain to her that she has overstayed her welcome, and is no longer wanted in your house. Hand her a telephone book, opened to ';apartment rentals'; and tell her that she has 5 days to be out or you will have her removed.
If she is as bad an alcoholic as you say, maybe taking her to detox would be a good alternative, and when she gets out of detox she can live elsewhere.
in the state of Florida once some one establishes residency you can not throw them out. if she has been living there that long that is know her house to and does not matter who's name is on the lease or mortgage and wither or not she pays any bills the only way you can legally force her to move is to go down to the clerk of courts office and file for an eviction if you try and just throw her stuff out she can kick the door in or what ever else she has to do to get back in because it is her house to now and it is not against the law to break into your own home
Simply tell her to leave or that it's time for her to pitch in. If not, call the police it's our property and have the right to say who stays and who doesn't stay there. Or change your locks and place her stuff outside. If you are too nice, grow a pair and kick her out with force. You say ';our'; lives so there is more than 1 of you.
You know the old saying, after a few days guests are like fish,...they start to stink. Just tell her face to face you want her out of the house. Get her a motel room and put her in it. (but only pay for one night, she can be responsible for the rest)
TELL HER TO GET OUT. SHE HAS OVERSTAYED WAY LONGER THAT YOU OFFERED HER TO. YOU SHOULD TELL HER ALL THE REASONS WHY YOU WANT HER OUT SUCH AS THE FACT THAT SHE DRINKS TOO MUCH. JUST TELL YOU'VE HAS ENOUGH OF HER!!!
Find out what the eviction laws are in your state before you remove her, or you could get yourself into trouble.
It may be as simple as just giving her a letter stating she has to be out within 30 days.
law dawg or w/e his name is rite. did u write a contract when she moved in with u cuz if you did u have the rite 2 kick her out.
Give her an ultimatum. Move out at the end of the month, or you'll lock her out.
Offer to help her find an apartment.
That's it.
Make it hard for her to stay or Find her an apartment. Shes not going to go anywhere cuz she is living off you. Or just tell her she has 1 week to get out
Take all of her stuff out of the house and put it to the curb that should give her a hint.
Make sure she doesn't have a key. If she does, change the locks. Once you've done that, tell her, verbally and in writing that she has one week to vacate the premises. If she doesn't leave after that, take out a warrant on her for criminal tresspass.
Note: do NOT put her things out on the curb like some of the otehrs suggest. You may very well find yourself financially responsible for any loss of damage she incurs.
What key words to type for searching guest house/rooms in chennai on google /others?
i want the key words which will help me to get info about guest house/rooms in chennai on google yahoo etcWhat key words to type for searching guest house/rooms in chennai on google /others?
hotel
service apartment
furnished apartment
rooms
guest house
temporary rental apartment
hotel
service apartment
furnished apartment
rooms
guest house
temporary rental apartment
How do you get rid of an unwanted house guest without being nasty?
My husband told my sister-in-law that she could move-in until her apartment was ready to move in. It should have taken about 8 days before she could move-in. She was supposed to be moving in with her sister, but they got into an argument and she decided that she couldn't bare to live with her sister. My husband isn't working because we just move here so I'm paying all the bills. How do I get rid of her quickly without offending my in-laws???????How do you get rid of an unwanted house guest without being nasty?
Tell your sister-in-law that as much as everyone loves and cares about her this time is needed for your family to settle in and spend time together perhaps inviting her to Sunday dinner's would be nice but it's time she goes.How do you get rid of an unwanted house guest without being nasty?
Ask her what her plans are. If she doesn't have any, then maybe YOU should move out and let your husband and his sister figure out something on their own.
Tell each sister that the other is sorry and wants to make up.
Tell your sister-in-law that as much as everyone loves and cares about her this time is needed for your family to settle in and spend time together perhaps inviting her to Sunday dinner's would be nice but it's time she goes.How do you get rid of an unwanted house guest without being nasty?
Ask her what her plans are. If she doesn't have any, then maybe YOU should move out and let your husband and his sister figure out something on their own.
Tell each sister that the other is sorry and wants to make up.
Doeas anyone know anyone or anyone own a small condo or guest house for rent in Florida?
I'm a very nice 33 year old woman and I'm looking to get out of this dreaded weather for a while! The further South the better like the Keys or nicer areas near Miami. The thing is that I don't have a lot of money right now! Even a room would be great. I'm looking to stay 1-2 weeks at the most. If you're older and could use someone to help you with housework and yardwork a bit, that's fine. I'm looking to spend $300-$500 a week at the most. A place with a heated pool or near the beach would be really nice. I'm not picky but I'm just looking for somewhere that is clean and only in a nice area. I'd be willing to send pictures and character references as well. If anyone could hlep, it'd be greatly appreciated!Doeas anyone know anyone or anyone own a small condo or guest house for rent in Florida?
nope.
nope.
A week after having a dinner guest at your house, you discover they shoveled their plate into a planter ?
Your back must have been turned when they did it, and the smell of rotting fish alerted you to the fact. You remember their compliments of a great meal, that they were full and declined seconds. Should we accept a dinner invite from them ?A week after having a dinner guest at your house, you discover they shoveled their plate into a planter ?
This must be a joke, right? Someone shoveled foods into a planter? Any host will eventually find out. Well, did the dinner guest shovel the entire plate or just a tiny bite into the planter. If it is just a tiny bit, then maybe there is a charcoal pierce or hair or something, so the guest did not know what to do and just tossed that small piece. If it is the entire plate, then it is a different story. Well, it is really up to you if you want to forgive them. If you truly are ready to forgive, then sure you will attend. If you do not think you are ready to forgive but want to do so one day, then do not attend. Otherwise, 1) you will be quietly upset for the entire evening, or 2) you will burst out and say something you regret later. Don't put yourself in a situation which you are not ready for. Now, if you do not want to forgive them ever, then go. Go there and do what he did. Shovel his plates into his planter, but do it obviously and do it with a smile. What can he possible do, right? Call you being impolite and uneducated? He can't. He did it first. He will be quietly watching you shovel one plate after another into his plants and he will probably end up apologizing to you.
Some people here may claim he did that to avoiding humiliating you, but it really depends if you think ';shoveling your plate into planter'; is an insult. Is someone giving you the finger behind you better than in front of you? Is someone stealing your money behind of you better than in front of you? If the act is an insult on its own, then doing it behind or in front of you matters not. (because it really does not matter how I think, I have deleted what I think of this)
If you do not think it is an insult, but rather an embarrassment, then you will forgive him one day - even if it is not now. It is certainly better that someone picks his nose behind you instead of in front of you, for instance.
At the end, I think it is important for you to be true to yourself. I eat pork, but Muslims do not. I walk in my house with shoes on, many Japanese do not. Each has to be true to his/her values. Dig deep down into your value system, and you know what is your correct response. Anyone offering their recommendation is merely offer their best approach, not yours.A week after having a dinner guest at your house, you discover they shoveled their plate into a planter ?
So you know who it was, since you said ';a dinner guest.'; Take the fish recipe with you since they complimented you on your meal, and give it to them in front of everyone else. Perhaps they will make a face or something that will open the door to you asking if they really didn't like it after all. If you do the same, you are stooping to their level and just as rude as they were. However, to really humiliate them, if you don't like what they serve you, TELL THEM so up front to show them you are the better person. If they ask why are aren't eating, just say you don't like this particular dish. If you are open and honest about it, maybe they will even 'fess up to what they did at your house. One can only hope, right?
Yes because even though they dumped their plate in your planter they were trying to be kind %26amp; not hurt your feelings, they didn't expect you to know who had dumped the plate. You know you would have been humiliated had they told you in front of guest how awful they thought the fish was. Let it go %26amp; just don't invite them to your next dinner
Ha yes and then put your dinner in the sink, fishtank, or like shovel it into the dog's food dish. Ha just kidding. Yes and be very polite and like say something about your plant in front of them. ';Yea my flowers really smell lately. I hope nothing's wrong with it';
Yes and do the same :) haha
yeah but do something back
Lol!
haha yeah i liked that first girls answer.. go over there and do the same damn thing they did to you.
This must be a joke, right? Someone shoveled foods into a planter? Any host will eventually find out. Well, did the dinner guest shovel the entire plate or just a tiny bite into the planter. If it is just a tiny bit, then maybe there is a charcoal pierce or hair or something, so the guest did not know what to do and just tossed that small piece. If it is the entire plate, then it is a different story. Well, it is really up to you if you want to forgive them. If you truly are ready to forgive, then sure you will attend. If you do not think you are ready to forgive but want to do so one day, then do not attend. Otherwise, 1) you will be quietly upset for the entire evening, or 2) you will burst out and say something you regret later. Don't put yourself in a situation which you are not ready for. Now, if you do not want to forgive them ever, then go. Go there and do what he did. Shovel his plates into his planter, but do it obviously and do it with a smile. What can he possible do, right? Call you being impolite and uneducated? He can't. He did it first. He will be quietly watching you shovel one plate after another into his plants and he will probably end up apologizing to you.
Some people here may claim he did that to avoiding humiliating you, but it really depends if you think ';shoveling your plate into planter'; is an insult. Is someone giving you the finger behind you better than in front of you? Is someone stealing your money behind of you better than in front of you? If the act is an insult on its own, then doing it behind or in front of you matters not. (because it really does not matter how I think, I have deleted what I think of this)
If you do not think it is an insult, but rather an embarrassment, then you will forgive him one day - even if it is not now. It is certainly better that someone picks his nose behind you instead of in front of you, for instance.
At the end, I think it is important for you to be true to yourself. I eat pork, but Muslims do not. I walk in my house with shoes on, many Japanese do not. Each has to be true to his/her values. Dig deep down into your value system, and you know what is your correct response. Anyone offering their recommendation is merely offer their best approach, not yours.A week after having a dinner guest at your house, you discover they shoveled their plate into a planter ?
So you know who it was, since you said ';a dinner guest.'; Take the fish recipe with you since they complimented you on your meal, and give it to them in front of everyone else. Perhaps they will make a face or something that will open the door to you asking if they really didn't like it after all. If you do the same, you are stooping to their level and just as rude as they were. However, to really humiliate them, if you don't like what they serve you, TELL THEM so up front to show them you are the better person. If they ask why are aren't eating, just say you don't like this particular dish. If you are open and honest about it, maybe they will even 'fess up to what they did at your house. One can only hope, right?
Yes because even though they dumped their plate in your planter they were trying to be kind %26amp; not hurt your feelings, they didn't expect you to know who had dumped the plate. You know you would have been humiliated had they told you in front of guest how awful they thought the fish was. Let it go %26amp; just don't invite them to your next dinner
Ha yes and then put your dinner in the sink, fishtank, or like shovel it into the dog's food dish. Ha just kidding. Yes and be very polite and like say something about your plant in front of them. ';Yea my flowers really smell lately. I hope nothing's wrong with it';
Yes and do the same :) haha
yeah but do something back
Lol!
haha yeah i liked that first girls answer.. go over there and do the same damn thing they did to you.
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