A week after having a dinner guest at your house, you discover they shoveled their plate into a planter ?

Your back must have been turned when they did it, and the smell of rotting fish alerted you to the fact. You remember their compliments of a great meal, that they were full and declined seconds. Should we accept a dinner invite from them ?A week after having a dinner guest at your house, you discover they shoveled their plate into a planter ?
This must be a joke, right? Someone shoveled foods into a planter? Any host will eventually find out. Well, did the dinner guest shovel the entire plate or just a tiny bite into the planter. If it is just a tiny bit, then maybe there is a charcoal pierce or hair or something, so the guest did not know what to do and just tossed that small piece. If it is the entire plate, then it is a different story. Well, it is really up to you if you want to forgive them. If you truly are ready to forgive, then sure you will attend. If you do not think you are ready to forgive but want to do so one day, then do not attend. Otherwise, 1) you will be quietly upset for the entire evening, or 2) you will burst out and say something you regret later. Don't put yourself in a situation which you are not ready for. Now, if you do not want to forgive them ever, then go. Go there and do what he did. Shovel his plates into his planter, but do it obviously and do it with a smile. What can he possible do, right? Call you being impolite and uneducated? He can't. He did it first. He will be quietly watching you shovel one plate after another into his plants and he will probably end up apologizing to you.





Some people here may claim he did that to avoiding humiliating you, but it really depends if you think ';shoveling your plate into planter'; is an insult. Is someone giving you the finger behind you better than in front of you? Is someone stealing your money behind of you better than in front of you? If the act is an insult on its own, then doing it behind or in front of you matters not. (because it really does not matter how I think, I have deleted what I think of this)





If you do not think it is an insult, but rather an embarrassment, then you will forgive him one day - even if it is not now. It is certainly better that someone picks his nose behind you instead of in front of you, for instance.





At the end, I think it is important for you to be true to yourself. I eat pork, but Muslims do not. I walk in my house with shoes on, many Japanese do not. Each has to be true to his/her values. Dig deep down into your value system, and you know what is your correct response. Anyone offering their recommendation is merely offer their best approach, not yours.A week after having a dinner guest at your house, you discover they shoveled their plate into a planter ?
So you know who it was, since you said ';a dinner guest.'; Take the fish recipe with you since they complimented you on your meal, and give it to them in front of everyone else. Perhaps they will make a face or something that will open the door to you asking if they really didn't like it after all. If you do the same, you are stooping to their level and just as rude as they were. However, to really humiliate them, if you don't like what they serve you, TELL THEM so up front to show them you are the better person. If they ask why are aren't eating, just say you don't like this particular dish. If you are open and honest about it, maybe they will even 'fess up to what they did at your house. One can only hope, right?
Yes because even though they dumped their plate in your planter they were trying to be kind %26amp; not hurt your feelings, they didn't expect you to know who had dumped the plate. You know you would have been humiliated had they told you in front of guest how awful they thought the fish was. Let it go %26amp; just don't invite them to your next dinner
Ha yes and then put your dinner in the sink, fishtank, or like shovel it into the dog's food dish. Ha just kidding. Yes and be very polite and like say something about your plant in front of them. ';Yea my flowers really smell lately. I hope nothing's wrong with it';
Yes and do the same :) haha
yeah but do something back





Lol!
haha yeah i liked that first girls answer.. go over there and do the same damn thing they did to you.